As a nun who often counsels young Catholics, I’ve had many concerned youth come to me worried that going to church makes them feel anxious and overwhelmed. You’re not alone. Let’s chat about why this happens and how to find peace again in church.
I’ve seen even the most devout Catholics deal with this issue. The good news is there are ways to ease the anxiety and renew your joy. You can feel at home again instead of on edge with a little understanding and small tweaks.
Why Does Going to Church Trigger Anxiety?
There are some common reasons why attending Mass might increase anxiety or stress:
- Social anxiety around crowds or interacting with others
- Feeling judged by church members
- Pressure to participate in rituals
- Loud music or sounds that are grating
- Long services that are hard to sit through
- Sensory overload from sights and distractions
- Or just plain laziness on getting up on a Sunday
These things that bombard our senses and emotions can put anyone on high alert. Our minds associate church with this discomfort. Know that your anxiety response is normal.
You’re Not Alone
If you feel alone in this struggle, don’t despair. Even Biblical figures like Moses and Jeremiah initially felt unworthy and anxious in God’s presence.
Many faithful followers have grappled with this over the centuries. Famous preacher Charles Spurgeon once wrote a whole letter about his debilitating ‘stage fright’ in the pulpit.
So you’re in good company. Be encouraged that this does not make you any less connected to God or your faith community.
Tips to Overcome the Anxiety of Going to Church
While totally understandable, chronic church anxiety should not rob your joy. Let’s discuss some strategies to ease it:
Start Small
If the full Mass overwhelms you, just attend smaller groups or quiet prayer sessions to get comfortable. Baby steps are not a weakness – they build confidence.
Have A Routine
Consistency and ritual is calming. Follow the same routine each visit to create a “comfort zone.”
Talk to Clergy
Priests or church leaders can offer accommodations to lessen triggers, like sitting near an exit or wearing noise-canceling headphones. Most want to help.
Arrive Early
Getting there early lets you settle in and get your bearings without feeling rushed or flustered when crowds arrive.
Focus on Scripture
Reframe racing thoughts by meditating on a verse. The Word can drown out anxiety. As Psalm 94:19 says, “When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.”
Breathe and Pray
Close your eyes and pray silently when feeling anxious. Deep breathing resets our equilibrium. The Holy Spirit’s peace can transcend the chaos.
Remember Why You’re There
Rather than fixating on stressors, remind yourself you’re visiting God’s house to worship Him. Refocus on your eternal purpose.
Have Hope
With time and rest, most find their anxiety decreasing and spirits lifting again in church. Don’t get discouraged if progress feels slow.
Bring concerns to your clergy and mental health professional for more guidance. But most importantly, keep showing up in faith when you can.
God sees your heart and cares about your well-being. In time, with support, you can reclaim sacred spaces for fellowship and worship again without fear. Be patient, be proactive, and believe – you’ve got this.
