In my years as a Catholic nun, I have counseled many young couples struggling with the question of divorce. My heart grieves each time a marriage ends this way. As followers of Christ, we know God designed marriage to be a sacred, lifelong covenant between husband and wife. Jesus himself emphasized “What God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6).
However, because of the corruption of sin in our fallen world, divorce has become a concession allowed in Scripture, though clearly not part of God’s perfect plan.
Marriage Is Meant to Be a Permanent Bond
God’s intention for marriage is for it to be a permanent union between a man and a woman. As Catholic Christians, we hold marriage to be a holy sacrament and an insoluble bond.
Divorce was not part of God’s original design. The Bible reminds us to honor the sacred marital vows we make before Him and our spouses.
But Sin Has Marred God’s Ideal for Marriage
But, just as sin has corrupted many of God’s designs, it has also damaged the divine pattern for marriage. The Bible shows this, as selfishness and hard hearts ruin marriages.
Divorce should not be approached casually or in anger. The Bible suggests it may be justified in cases of unrepentant infidelity.
Jesus Addressed Divorce as a Concession to Sin’s Impact
When asked about divorce, Jesus responded:
“Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning” (Matthew 19:8).
Christ made clear this was not God’s original plan. It was a response to human stubbornness and sin. Divorce shows the deep wounds and ruin when sin taints love. But the Lord meets us with mercy.
Differing Grounds for Divorce in the New Testament
Jesus permitted divorce in the case of sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32). The Apostle Paul added abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). Some interpret these grounds strictly, others more broadly.
But, even if grounds exist, divorce should be a last resort. It should only be pursued after trying to reconcile.
Healing Is Possible for Those Hurt by Divorce
For those left hurting in the wake of divorce against their wishes, take comfort – our God is a redeemer. In His compassion, He can bring beauty from ashes. Divorce may feel like a personal failure. But, we serve a Lord of second chances. He cherishes and forgives all His beloved children.
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3). The arms of Jesus remain open to all who seek His grace. My prayers are with all navigating these deep waters of divorce. May you feel God’s Spirit comforting and guiding you forward.
